The Second Agreement: Don't take anything personally.
Don’t take anything personally – otherwise you set yourself to suffer for nothing.
When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.
I am watching a film. It is playing inside my head. It has action and adventure and high drama and romance and comedy and thrills and chills. It plays out in vivid colours of the rainbow at times and stark black and white at others. I am the primary character in my film. I am the hero and the victim and the comic and the romantic lead. I am the do-gooder and the villain and the sufferer and the caretaker. But whatever role I play, I have convinced myself that this is the only way to capture whatever is happening in the Universe. The way that I have captured it in my personal movie. And of course, since I can see the obviousness of this assumption, surely everybody else can as well, right? Everybody else, I tell myself, must be seeing the same film. Why, they have to, since that is the only film that I know about that has recorded all of these moments. So it must be the truth.
You, too, are watching a film. And perhaps I am in your film. But strangely enough for me, I am not the primary character in your film! You are. And the events in our lives, and the reactions to the events in our lives, happen to you. The colours and hues and emotions and thoughts are different than those in my film. I can’t believe it – how could you be so blind or so dense or so simplistic or so naïve in your interpretation of the truth?
For isn’t my truth the Universal Truth? Doesn’t everybody see things my way? Don’t all my personal thoughts and perceptions of the truth simply permeate into the whole wide world and then simply, through magical osmosis enter your world and become your thoughts and perceptions of the truth?
They don’t??????? Hmmmm…..